Focus what to do INSTEAD of what NOT to (Cont’d)

1. The exact words he uses

2. His emotion

3. His intention in saying what he is saying

4. His underlying belief, value and attitude

5. What he is saying in contrast to the bigger context

Well, the above will surely keep me busy enough that my mind has no space to think of suggestion!   In addition, if I am really enable to listen to the above and paraphrase to him, it would be a powerful conversation already!

Will surely try it next time.