Coach only if he wants to
Updated: Mar 24
One of my friends came to me to talk about her career choices the other day. Somehow I launched into my coaching mode and started to ask questions. I did it unconsciously probably because I have done 2 coaching sessions before meeting my friend. After 5 minutes, looked annoyed, she said ‘David, I know that you are practicing your coaching but….’
That moment reinforced my previous realisation on how important coachee’s willingness is. I will almost say that coaching will never work if the coachee does not want to be coached. It could be rather intimidating to anyone when being thrown with a series of unsolicited questions. If unsolicited, those thought-provoking-coaching-questions can be particularly annoying.
At the very least, in the future, I should always ask ‘Is it OK if I ask a few questions for us to clarify the situation and your thought?’