'How did you manage to do this?'
I find myself asking this question more and more often in my coaching work. Asking this question (with a tone out of curiosity and...
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ASK, NOT TELL
....and many other thoughts about facilitation, coaching ( teams & individuals) and learning
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David
- Dec 14, 2023
- 3 min
The moment just before
It has been a long while since I last wrote.  So much things have happened and there are a lot to reflect on. Let me first reflect on a...
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David
- Sep 23, 2022
- 3 min
‘Relations’ Rather Than ‘Parts’
I enjoy the diagnosis as much as the intervention part of my work. I always derive a lot of fun and learn a lot in working out with...
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David
- Jun 1, 2022
- 1 min
Sherlock vs Dorothy
I happened to come across again these 2 movies after I wrote my last post on 'Appreciating Defense'. The main characters in the movies...
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David
- May 22, 2022
- 3 min
Appreciating Defense
Day 55 of the lockdown. The official announcement is that the restriction is being relaxed. But …. along with many others, our...
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David
- May 6, 2022
- 4 min
Shanghai Lockdown like a GRC
In the spring of 2022, I find myself like in a Group Relation Conference (GRC) of 900+ members in Shanghai. I am talking about the...
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David
- Apr 20, 2022
- 3 min
Walking into the ‘Shadow’ Together
(Photo source - https://snapshotsforsoreeyes.com/2015/06/22/light-at-the-end/) Jimmy (pseudonym) told me (as the coach), ‘I am...
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David
- Jan 24, 2022
- 3 min
Developing with and through others
(Photo source: Flora Baker @ twitter.com) 2021 has been a busy year. With the quieter Jan, I am going to catch up with my reflection...
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David
- Mar 5, 2021
- 2 min
Role – How a dog can ‘develop’ human
I reflected on the concept of ROLE in the last post – Why me again fixing the Wifi? I come across recently an unusual example in...
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David
- Feb 24, 2021
- 3 min
Role – Why me again fixing the Wifi?
One day I found myself attempting to fix the Wifi at home again.  I was somehow annoyed with it.  ‘Why me again?’…. And I have already...
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David
- Sep 3, 2020
- 3 min
Smoking can fix a lot of our (team) problems
(Source: press.ikidane-nippon.com) An executive made a casual remark in a recent intact team development workshop, 'Smoking (together)...
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David
- Apr 5, 2020
- 2 min
‘Games’…. in Cantonese
(The psychological game – NIGYSOB – ‘Now I’ve got you, you son of a bitch’) This is another post which probably only my Cantonese readers...
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David
- Dec 4, 2019
- 2 min
‘Zero collusion’ can be equally bad
My take on collusion (e.g. pleasing participants in developmental interventions) has been changing in the last few years. First, I was...
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David
- Oct 19, 2019
- 4 min
‘Immunity to Change’ vs Psychodynamics
[Photo source unidentified. Please advise if anyone knows. I will add the source accordingly] I learnt to use the ‘Immunity to Change’...
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David
- May 10, 2019
- 3 min
Demons in Gobi desert
[Photo source unidentified. Please advise if anyone knows. I will add the source accordingly] In the ‘Journey to the West’ story (西游记),...
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David
- Oct 8, 2018
- 3 min
‘I know how to ….. but I don’t really want to’
A reflection on a recent ‘learning miracle’. I conducted a day of group coaching with 5 executives in a business school program. ...
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David
- Jun 20, 2018
- 1 min
Safety vs Freedom
‘It is often safer to be in chains than to be free’ Franz Kafka I come across this quote on radio today. It explains so well how often...
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David
- Jun 12, 2018
- 2 min
'What may also be going on?'
'What is really going on?' -Â It is the question often used in the Adaptive Leadership practice as well as in the psychodynamics...
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