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ASK, NOT TELL
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David
Dec 25, 20234 min read
'How did you manage to do this?'
I find myself asking this question more and more often in my coaching work. Asking this question (with a tone out of curiosity and...
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David
Dec 14, 20233 min read
The moment just before
It has been a long while since I last wrote.  So much things have happened and there are a lot to reflect on. Let me first reflect on a...
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David
Sep 23, 20223 min read
‘Relations’ Rather Than ‘Parts’
I enjoy the diagnosis as much as the intervention part of my work. I always derive a lot of fun and learn a lot in working out with...
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David
Jun 1, 20221 min read
Sherlock vs Dorothy
I happened to come across again these 2 movies after I wrote my last post on 'Appreciating Defense'. The main characters in the movies...
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David
May 22, 20223 min read
Appreciating Defense
Day 55 of the lockdown. The official announcement is that the restriction is being relaxed. But …. along with many others, our...
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David
Apr 20, 20223 min read
Walking into the ‘Shadow’ Together
(Photo source - https://snapshotsforsoreeyes.com/2015/06/22/light-at-the-end/) Jimmy (pseudonym) told me (as the coach), ‘I am...
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David
Mar 31, 20223 min read
A Midwife for Team Effectiveness
It was a difficult case of intact team development. Aspiration Bridge Company (pseudonym) is a foreign-owned financial services company...
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David
Jan 24, 20223 min read
Developing with and through others
(Photo source: Flora Baker @ twitter.com) 2021 has been a busy year. With the quieter Jan, I am going to catch up with my reflection...
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David
Mar 5, 20212 min read
Role – How a dog can ‘develop’ human
I reflected on the concept of ROLE in the last post – Why me again fixing the Wifi? I come across recently an unusual example in...
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David
Feb 24, 20213 min read
Role – Why me again fixing the Wifi?
One day I found myself attempting to fix the Wifi at home again.  I was somehow annoyed with it.  ‘Why me again?’…. And I have already...
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David
Sep 3, 20203 min read
Smoking can fix a lot of our (team) problems
(Source: press.ikidane-nippon.com) An executive made a casual remark in a recent intact team development workshop, 'Smoking (together)...
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David
May 25, 20202 min read
Just the Person
‘Just the person’ I am reading again the article ‘What is the difference and what makes the difference? A comparative study of...
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David
May 12, 20202 min read
Playing ‘Offence’ in Leadership Development
[Photo source unidentified. Please advise if anyone knows. I will add the source accordingly] Numerous articles on the internet have...
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David
Apr 5, 20202 min read
‘Games’…. in Cantonese
(The psychological game – NIGYSOB – ‘Now I’ve got you, you son of a bitch’) This is another post which probably only my Cantonese readers...
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David
Dec 4, 20192 min read
‘Zero collusion’ can be equally bad
My take on collusion (e.g. pleasing participants in developmental interventions) has been changing in the last few years. First, I was...
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David
Oct 29, 20193 min read
Seafood Market – What is really going on?
Many many years ago, there was a village where no one has ever eaten anything from the sea. A few village men accidentally caught a few...
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David
Oct 19, 20194 min read
‘Immunity to Change’ vs Psychodynamics
[Photo source unidentified. Please advise if anyone knows. I will add the source accordingly] I learnt to use the ‘Immunity to Change’...
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David
May 10, 20193 min read
Demons in Gobi desert
[Photo source unidentified. Please advise if anyone knows. I will add the source accordingly] In the ‘Journey to the West’ story (西游记),...
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David
May 3, 20193 min read
‘Are-you-ok-I-am-ok’
It was Day 2 of the Gobi race and we were somewhere midway in the 96km race. Right in the middle of the day, all were tired and some...
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