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David
Dec 25, 20234 min read
'How did you manage to do this?'
I find myself asking this question more and more often in my coaching work. Asking this question (with a tone out of curiosity and...
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David
Dec 14, 20233 min read
The moment just before
It has been a long while since I last wrote.  So much things have happened and there are a lot to reflect on. Let me first reflect on a...
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David
Jun 1, 20221 min read
Sherlock vs Dorothy
I happened to come across again these 2 movies after I wrote my last post on 'Appreciating Defense'. The main characters in the movies...
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David
May 22, 20223 min read
Appreciating Defense
Day 55 of the lockdown. The official announcement is that the restriction is being relaxed. But …. along with many others, our...
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David
May 6, 20224 min read
Shanghai Lockdown like a GRC
In the spring of 2022, I find myself like in a Group Relation Conference (GRC) of 900+ members in Shanghai. I am talking about the...
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David
Apr 20, 20223 min read
Walking into the ‘Shadow’ Together
(Photo source - https://snapshotsforsoreeyes.com/2015/06/22/light-at-the-end/) Jimmy (pseudonym) told me (as the coach), ‘I am...
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David
Mar 5, 20212 min read
Role – How a dog can ‘develop’ human
I reflected on the concept of ROLE in the last post – Why me again fixing the Wifi? I come across recently an unusual example in...
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David
Feb 24, 20213 min read
Role – Why me again fixing the Wifi?
One day I found myself attempting to fix the Wifi at home again.  I was somehow annoyed with it.  ‘Why me again?’…. And I have already...
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David
Sep 3, 20203 min read
Smoking can fix a lot of our (team) problems
(Source: press.ikidane-nippon.com) An executive made a casual remark in a recent intact team development workshop, 'Smoking (together)...
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David
Apr 5, 20202 min read
‘Games’…. in Cantonese
(The psychological game – NIGYSOB – ‘Now I’ve got you, you son of a bitch’) This is another post which probably only my Cantonese readers...
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David
Dec 4, 20192 min read
‘Zero collusion’ can be equally bad
My take on collusion (e.g. pleasing participants in developmental interventions) has been changing in the last few years. First, I was...
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David
May 10, 20193 min read
Demons in Gobi desert
[Photo source unidentified. Please advise if anyone knows. I will add the source accordingly] In the ‘Journey to the West’ story (西游记),...
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David
Oct 8, 20183 min read
‘I know how to ….. but I don’t really want to’
A reflection on a recent ‘learning miracle’. I conducted a day of group coaching with 5 executives in a business school program. ...
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David
Jun 20, 20181 min read
Safety vs Freedom
‘It is often safer to be in chains than to be free’ Franz Kafka I come across this quote on radio today. It explains so well how often...
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David
Jun 12, 20182 min read
'What may also be going on?'
'What is really going on?' -Â It is the question often used in the Adaptive Leadership practice as well as in the psychodynamics...
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