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'How did you manage to do this?'
I find myself asking this question more and more often in my coaching work. Asking this question (with a tone out of curiosity and...
David
Dec 25, 20234 min read
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The moment just before
It has been a long while since I last wrote.  So much things have happened and there are a lot to reflect on. Let me first reflect on a...
David
Dec 14, 20233 min read
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Care first, then Dare
I recently had chance to hear George Kohlrieser talking about his ‘Secure Base Leadership’. It was insightful to see how he...
David
Nov 4, 20224 min read
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Have a hypothesis finally.. then what?
The 360 report described Jon (pseudonym) to be too outspoken. He admitted that his expressiveness was sometimes unproductive. Together...
David
Sep 30, 20224 min read
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‘Relations’ Rather Than ‘Parts’
I enjoy the diagnosis as much as the intervention part of my work. I always derive a lot of fun and learn a lot in working out with...
David
Sep 23, 20223 min read
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She Helps But She Does Not Care
I once heard a kid commenting another person as ‘She helps but she does not care’. What an insightful remark from a 10-year old! ...
David
Jun 20, 20222 min read
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Sherlock vs Dorothy
I happened to come across again these 2 movies after I wrote my last post on 'Appreciating Defense'. The main characters in the movies...
David
Jun 1, 20221 min read
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Appreciating Defense
Day 55 of the lockdown. The official announcement is that the restriction is being relaxed. But …. along with many others, our...
David
May 22, 20223 min read
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Shanghai Lockdown like a GRC
In the spring of 2022, I find myself like in a Group Relation Conference (GRC) of 900+ members in Shanghai. I am talking about the...
David
May 6, 20224 min read
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Walking into the ‘Shadow’ Together
(Photo source - https://snapshotsforsoreeyes.com/2015/06/22/light-at-the-end/) Jimmy (pseudonym) told me (as the coach), ‘I am...
David
Apr 20, 20223 min read
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A Midwife for Team Effectiveness
It was a difficult case of intact team development. Aspiration Bridge Company (pseudonym) is a foreign-owned financial services company...
David
Mar 31, 20223 min read
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Developing with and through others
(Photo source: Flora Baker @ twitter.com) 2021 has been a busy year. With the quieter Jan, I am going to catch up with my reflection...
David
Jan 24, 20223 min read
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Role – How a dog can ‘develop’ human
I reflected on the concept of ROLE in the last post – Why me again fixing the Wifi? I come across recently an unusual example in...
David
Mar 5, 20212 min read
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Role – Why me again fixing the Wifi?
One day I found myself attempting to fix the Wifi at home again.  I was somehow annoyed with it.  ‘Why me again?’…. And I have already...
David
Feb 24, 20213 min read
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Smoking can fix a lot of our (team) problems
(Source: press.ikidane-nippon.com) An executive made a casual remark in a recent intact team development workshop, 'Smoking (together)...
David
Sep 3, 20203 min read
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Just the Person
‘Just the person’ I am reading again the article ‘What is the difference and what makes the difference? A comparative study of...
David
May 25, 20202 min read
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Playing ‘Offence’ in Leadership Development
[Photo source unidentified. Please advise if anyone knows. I will add the source accordingly] Numerous articles on the internet have...
David
May 12, 20202 min read
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‘Games’…. in Cantonese
(The psychological game – NIGYSOB – ‘Now I’ve got you, you son of a bitch’) This is another post which probably only my Cantonese readers...
David
Apr 5, 20202 min read
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‘Zero collusion’ can be equally bad
My take on collusion (e.g. pleasing participants in developmental interventions) has been changing in the last few years. First, I was...
David
Dec 4, 20192 min read
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Seafood Market – What is really going on?
Many many years ago, there was a village where no one has ever eaten anything from the sea. A few village men accidentally caught a few...
David
Oct 29, 20193 min read
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