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'How did you manage to do this?'

I find myself asking this question more and more often in my coaching work. Asking this question (with a tone out of curiosity and...

Coaching

David

Dec 25, 20234 min read

The moment just before

It has been a long while since I last wrote. So much things have happened and there are a lot to reflect on. Let me first reflect on a...

Coaching

David

Dec 14, 20233 min read

Care first, then Dare

I recently had chance to hear George Kohlrieser talking about his ‘Secure Base Leadership’. It was insightful to see how he...

David

Nov 4, 20224 min read

Have a hypothesis finally.. then what?

The 360 report described Jon (pseudonym) to be too outspoken. He admitted that his expressiveness was sometimes unproductive. Together...

David

Sep 30, 20224 min read

‘Relations’ Rather Than ‘Parts’

I enjoy the diagnosis as much as the intervention part of my work. I always derive a lot of fun and learn a lot in working out with...

Coaching

David

Sep 23, 20223 min read

She Helps But She Does Not Care

I once heard a kid commenting another person as ‘She helps but she does not care’. What an insightful remark from a 10-year old! ...

David

Jun 20, 20222 min read

Sherlock vs Dorothy

I happened to come across again these 2 movies after I wrote my last post on 'Appreciating Defense'. The main characters in the movies...

Coaching

David

Jun 1, 20221 min read

Appreciating Defense

Day 55 of the lockdown. The official announcement is that the restriction is being relaxed. But …. along with many others, our...

Systems Psychodynamics

David

May 22, 20223 min read

Shanghai Lockdown like a GRC

In the spring of 2022, I find myself like in a Group Relation Conference (GRC) of 900+ members in Shanghai. I am talking about the...

Systems Psychodynamics

David

May 6, 20224 min read

Walking into the ‘Shadow’ Together

(Photo source - https://snapshotsforsoreeyes.com/2015/06/22/light-at-the-end/) Jimmy (pseudonym) told me (as the coach), ‘I am...

Coaching

David

Apr 20, 20223 min read

A Midwife for Team Effectiveness

It was a difficult case of intact team development. Aspiration Bridge Company (pseudonym) is a foreign-owned financial services company...

Team

David

Mar 31, 20223 min read

Developing with and through others

(Photo source: Flora Baker @ twitter.com) 2021 has been a busy year. With the quieter Jan, I am going to catch up with my reflection...

Learning

David

Jan 24, 20223 min read

Role – How a dog can ‘develop’ human

I reflected on the concept of ROLE in the last post – Why me again fixing the Wifi? I come across recently an unusual example in...

Learning

David

Mar 5, 20212 min read

Role – Why me again fixing the Wifi?

One day I found myself attempting to fix the Wifi at home again. I was somehow annoyed with it. ‘Why me again?’…. And I have already...

Learning

David

Feb 24, 20213 min read

Smoking can fix a lot of our (team) problems

(Source: press.ikidane-nippon.com) An executive made a casual remark in a recent intact team development workshop, 'Smoking (together)...

Learning

David

Sep 3, 20203 min read

Just the Person

‘Just the person’ I am reading again the article ‘What is the difference and what makes the difference? A comparative study of...

Coaching

David

May 25, 20202 min read

Playing ‘Offence’ in Leadership Development

[Photo source unidentified. Please advise if anyone knows. I will add the source accordingly] Numerous articles on the internet have...

Learning

David

May 12, 20202 min read

‘Games’…. in Cantonese

(The psychological game – NIGYSOB – ‘Now I’ve got you, you son of a bitch’) This is another post which probably only my Cantonese readers...

Learning

David

Apr 5, 20202 min read

‘Zero collusion’ can be equally bad

My take on collusion (e.g. pleasing participants in developmental interventions) has been changing in the last few years. First, I was...

Learning

David

Dec 4, 20192 min read

Seafood Market – What is really going on?

Many many years ago, there was a village where no one has ever eaten anything from the sea. A few village men accidentally caught a few...

Coaching

David

Oct 29, 20193 min read

Just the Person

May 25, 2020

‘Immunity to Change’ vs Psychodynamics

Oct 19, 2019

Why Team?

May 17, 2019

Demons in Gobi desert

May 10, 2019

'What may also be going on?'

Jun 12, 2018

10 Years Old

Apr 6, 2017

What’s the point?

Apr 9, 2016

What is really Reflection?

Dec 18, 2015

Improv Theatre and Emergence

Oct 19, 2015

Learning Sustainability

Apr 12, 2015

Tavistock Experience – Learning Design

Feb 3, 2015

Really…. what is leadership?

Feb 21, 2014

Never perfect

Apr 10, 2013

Why ‘Ask, Not Tell’?

Jan 13, 2008

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ASK, NOT TELL

'How did you manage to do this?'

The moment just before

Care first, then Dare

Have a hypothesis finally.. then what?

‘Relations’ Rather Than ‘Parts’

She Helps But She Does Not Care

Sherlock vs Dorothy

Appreciating Defense

Shanghai Lockdown like a GRC

Walking into the ‘Shadow’ Together

A Midwife for Team Effectiveness

Developing with and through others

Role – How a dog can ‘develop’ human

Role – Why me again fixing the Wifi?

Smoking can fix a lot of our (team) problems

Just the Person

Playing ‘Offence’ in Leadership Development

‘Games’…. in Cantonese

‘Zero collusion’ can be equally bad

Seafood Market – What is really going on?

Just the Person

‘Immunity to Change’ vs Psychodynamics

Why Team?

Demons in Gobi desert

'What may also be going on?'

10 Years Old

What’s the point?

What is really Reflection?

Improv Theatre and Emergence

Learning Sustainability

Tavistock Experience – Learning Design

Really…. what is leadership?

Never perfect

Why ‘Ask, Not Tell’?