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ASK, NOT TELL
....and many other thoughts about facilitation, coaching ( teams & individuals) and learning
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Immunity to Change
It is beautiful! ... if you ask me how I feel about overall Immunity to Change (ITC) approach. I have recently attended a workshop on...
David
Sep 25, 20132 min read
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Draw out questions
I learnt recently from my co-facilitator a wonderful question in a workshop in Shanghai. A great way to draw thoughts / questions from...
David
Sep 17, 20131 min read
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Why ‘Group’ for ‘Individual’?
In recent years, I am more attracted to work with intact teams rather than ‘open programs’. (By ‘open programs’, I mean that the...
David
Sep 6, 20131 min read
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Inner Work
This piece of reflection is a combination of recent experience in Hong Kong and Chennai, as well as my reading on the book 'Standing on...
David
Aug 31, 20131 min read
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What (Meeting) Facilitators Do
Watch it. Just 4 mins. I particularly like the analogies!
David
Jun 23, 20131 min read
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Physical Conditioning
I love looking at the Alps over the Lake Geneva. I will focus my eyesight and read the outline of the mountain slowly. I feel very...
David
Jun 5, 20131 min read
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Facilitation and Business Schools
I spent a few days in Lausanne after the London workshop. To my surprise, I found out that my hotel is just next to the famous business...
David
May 29, 20131 min read
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London Experience
I had a great workshop in London. A really good one! First, the learners are great. They are mature yet with high intellectual...
David
May 28, 20131 min read
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Focus what to do INSTEAD of what NOT to (Cont’d)
The exact words he uses His emotion His intention in saying what he is saying His underlying belief, value and attitude What he is saying...
David
May 5, 20131 min read
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Focus what to do INSTEAD of what NOT to
There is something I want to get better in my 1 on 1 coaching practice. I observe that from time to time I cannot help offer suggestion...
David
Apr 30, 20131 min read
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Never perfect
I suspect that this is true – there will never be a ‘perfect’ facilitated session. I came to this realisation when I facilitated a...
David
Apr 11, 20131 min read
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ARL on ARL
I was trying to explain what ARL is to another. Someone suggested a much better idea on how to do it. Let them experience first and...
David
Apr 7, 20131 min read
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Coach only if he wants to
One of my friends came to me to talk about her career choices the other day. Somehow I launched into my coaching mode and started to...
David
Mar 30, 20131 min read
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A New Look
Ask Not Tell has been around for 6 years. I have long been thinking to give the website a new look. Why? I believe that we all...
David
Mar 16, 20132 min read
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Contracting - What my role is NOT
I am reflecting with a guru on some of my team facilitation experience. More and more I realise that it is equally (if not more)...
David
Feb 24, 20131 min read
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Engagement, Performance or Compliance
I recently heard a great way to look at different ‘training programs’. They are either for the purpose of engagement, performance or...
David
Feb 23, 20131 min read
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I am International
Not exactly humble but just cannot help reflect on this here. I was in Botswana doing a Leadership Development program. It is the...
David
Feb 10, 20131 min read
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The Paradox of Confidence and Vulnerability
This is another interesting insight from my 2012 experience. Vulnerability First, let me talk about vulnerability. This could mean...
David
Feb 9, 20132 min read
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Staying Real
I am happy how the Singapore Dec workshop turned out. I had been worried about it quite a lot. It was a pilot program for a group of...
David
Jan 26, 20131 min read
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